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Dating after divorce

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WAUSAU (WAOW) -- It's a sad thought but most marriages end in divorce. After taking time to recover, many people look to date after divorce.

"I forgot how to date! I mean, it's completely different than it used to be." Howie Schultz is new to the dating scene.  His thirty year marriage recently ended in divorce.

"When you're fifty years old, dating is a lot different than when you're twenty years old.  We used to go to the bar, meet a girl and go out with her," Schultz says.  "I don't drink anymore so I don't go to the bar."

And Schultz says that left him with few options.  He chose online dating.  And it's common.  In fact, in 2010, seventeen percent of married couples met on a dating site like match.com or E-Harmony.

But before Schultz went on his first date he freshened up.

Schultz adds, "I got a hair cut, tried to make myself look nicer."

Tara Curtsinger sees a lot of that, behind her stylist chair, especially in women.

"I think they just want to feel new,"  Curtsinger says.  "They want to feel good about themselves. S So,, they like to come in and it's usually a big change."

Another big change often comes in the gym.  Personal trainer, Cheryl Jaworski, says new divorcees often work the hardest.

"You know, competition", Jaworski says.  You have to get physically fit.  You're a bit more motivated to look that best that you can."

But it isn't all physical.  Schultz relied heavily on the support group Divorce Care before feeling ready to test the dating waters again.

Linda Michalski also attends those meetings.  She says she couldn't date until she healed from her divorce.

"I've learned to be happy by myself and finding things that I like to do by myself that make me happy," Michalski says.

Michalski also recently rejoined the dating scene, but after several years.  And says her divorce might actually help in her next relationship.

"It's a matter of time. It really is," she says.  "If you wait long enough and you have to learn something from the whole divorce."

Click on the link associated with this page to find a DivorceCare group in your area.

Online Reporter:  Cami Mountain

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